On a balmy July afternoon in 2024, Mira found herself seated in the softly lit clinic of her gynaecologist, the sun casting warm, golden rays through the large windows, pooling onto the polished wooden floor. She cradled her swollen belly with both hands, feeling the tender, rhythmic movements of her unborn child inside—each gentle nudge a reminder of the precious life nestled within her. At 37, she had long envisioned the joy of welcoming a second child into her family. Still, this pregnancy felt more like navigating a chaotic tempest than savouring a serene dream. Complications had emerged like dark storm clouds overhead—severe nausea clawed at her throat and abdomen, high blood pressure loomed threateningly, relentless back pain coiled her muscles in a tight grip, and an unshakeable anxiety enveloped her heart, squeezing tighter with every ticking second.
Her medical team wore expressions of deep concern, their brows knitted in worry as they closely monitored her complicated health and the distressing stagnation in her foetus’s growth. Mira’s journey into motherhood had begun in 2012 when she joyfully married her partner, eagerly embracing the prospect of pregnancy that followed shortly after. In early 2014, she celebrated the arrival of her spirited baby girl, who filled her life with light and laughter. Yet the path of motherhood had presented its own set of challenges. She grappled with the anguishing decision to terminate two pregnancies in 2015 and 2017, each choice weighing heavily on her heart, mired in a mix of personal and external pressures. Those decisions haunted her like distant echoes, shadows that lingered in the corners of her mind. No matter how often she tried to move forward, the remnants of those experiences felt like buried wounds that festered within her very essence, affecting not just her emotional landscape but her physical health as well.
Everything changed when her compassionate friend Kiran—who had navigated her own tumultuous journey through fertility challenges—introduced Mira to the healing potential of Family Constellation therapy. With a blend of hope simmering alongside hesitance, Mira agreed to meet with Sannket Tillu, an experienced facilitator renowned for his powerful ability to guide individuals through profound healing, at a tranquil space aptly called Blooming Mind.
The therapy session unfolded with a warmth that enveloped her, a comforting bubble created by the presence of supportive individuals gathered to help Mira navigate the tangled roots of her familial history. Sannket welcomed her with open arms, his demeanour gentle yet invigorating, encouraging her to speak freely about her struggles. As Mira poured out her heart, the tears began to flow, each drop carrying with it the weight of unacknowledged grief—a truth long buried surfaced. She realized, with a gut-wrenching clarity, that she had never truly mourned the loss of her past pregnancies; instead, she had layered guilt and shame over that grief, telling herself she had no right to feel the ache for the choices she had made.
As the session advanced, Sannket guided Mira through a powerful constellation setup, inviting surrogate participants to step in as representatives of her lost pregnancies, her unborn child, and even her ancestors. The atmosphere in the room thickened with a palpable sense of sorrow, as if the air itself carried the weight of silent mourning. Mira watched as the figures representing her lost children stood at a poignant distance, their bodies radiating grief and longing that echoed throughout the space.
Overwhelmed by the emotional tide, tears streamed down Mira’s cheeks as Sannket gently urged her to acknowledge these cherished souls. With a voice quivering under the weight of her feelings, she whispered, “I see you. I am deeply sorry. I let you go with love.” In that transformative moment, it felt as if the atmosphere shifted; the representative of her unborn child, who had remained cautiously distant, took a tentative step closer, bridging the chasm of disconnection that had separated them for so long.
Throughout the session, Mira unearthed the stark realization that her unresolved guilt and repressed grief were manifesting vividly in her physical health. She began to understand that her subconscious punishing herself stemmed from an internalized belief that she was unworthy of experiencing a healthy pregnancy. As she processed these deeply entrenched emotions, a liberating sense of release washed over her, akin to the heavy cloak of despair being gently unwrapped, allowing her spirit to soar.
In the weeks that followed, Mira wholeheartedly committed herself to therapy, delving into rituals of self-forgiveness and engaging with a variety of healing practices. Her body began to respond with newfound Vigor; her blood pressure gradually stabilized, the relentless back pain began to ease, and moments of joy started sprouting within her pregnancy, reminiscent of vibrant wildflowers bursting forth after a long, harsh winter. Her doctors, initially concerned, now expressed astonishment at the unexpected turnaround in her health.
As she approached the final trimester, Mira stood poised on the brink of transformation, emerging from the shadows of fear that had once overshadowed her spirit. She had learned to embrace the tapestry of her past and present, discovering that authentic healing arose not from the erasure of history but from lovingly weaving it into the fabric of her life.
On a brisk autumn morning, as leaves danced in the wind like golden confetti spiralling through the air, Mira welcomed her healthy baby boy into the world. As she cradled her newborn against her chest, she whispered a silent vow—to honour all lives that had interwoven with hers, to embrace motherhood once again with an open and healing heart, and to embark on a lifelong journey of healing for herself and the generations that would follow.
Though the journey had been fraught with challenges, Family Constellations had adorned her with the profound gift of healing, illuminating the path towards a brighter future.
Note: This is a true story, one of many success stories at Blooming Mind. The names of the clients have been changed to preserve confidentiality.
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